We take life so seriously, and forget about all the fun, ease, happiness and peace. Many of us don’t live their life happily, and this is not the problem by the way. Problem is they don’t know that they are not enjoying life. We are following the same loop for many years and expect different results and then we have to disappoint. But never try to remove the loop. Many times we choose things to do in life, which we don’t like. Instead of making it correct, we include it in our routine and follow it daily. Doing something we don’t like, the reason for this may be different for everyone, maybe financially, emotionally, or something else.
How do we make wrong choices?
Obviously! We do not make wrong choices deliberately, but mostly in family pressure and influence by friends we make wrong choices. And many times it happens that we think our choice is right and we enjoy it but after investing a lot of time and dime we realise that we are not happy with it or we just do not enjoy doing it anymore. And then we get stuck then start the loop. Because now we are not interested in our job anymore, we stop growing in our career. But we have already given our lot of time to that career, we cannot think of switching. It is next to impossible to accept it and we get stuck in there.
These three things are very important for all of us: family, career and ourselves. With family and career, we can be happy only when we keep ourselves happy. And we can keep ourselves happy only when we grow with time, and growth would be better only when we are doing the work in which we are interested (well here I am not talking about the interest which stops our growth like watching movies all the time, daily party, drugs and so on).
The biggest mistake we make is we keep continuing with a career we are not interested in. In the beginning it is very easy for us to switch careers but still we follow the same career and due to which our growth stops. Sometimes it happens that after 5 years or 7 years or 10 years we realise that this profession is not for me. Although having so many years of experience is a great achievement, but I think quality is more important than quantity. When we are not in the career of our interest, we can add quantity to it but not quality.
We continue with the same career by thinking that we already gave our 10 years to it and now we have to give our entire life. Seriously! How can we compare our 10 years with our entire life? But still we go with that, and then we start taking life seriously, then we learn how to tense, how to disappoint, how to adjust, and after learning these new things we forget to be happy.
How to give new direction to wrong choices?
First of all, we should keep in mind that whatever action we take, especially if we want to switch careers, don’t try to change everything at once. Especially if your family depends on you financially, don’t take risks. Take small actions in the beginning, along with your job, make time for things that you want to do passionately, at least take an hour or two for that (you can start with 15–20min and then expand). If you need coaching classes then do that too. Try to take some time for your passion in the morning and evening so that you feel happy before going to office and your mind will be refreshed even after coming back.
When you can see growth in your passion then find out how you can earn from that. Even if you earn a little, it doesn’t matter, but try to earn money. So that you can build more confidence about your passion. And when you start earning a sufficient amount then you are ready to leave your job. But before leaving make sure that you should have savings of your and your family’s six months expenditure.
What if we cannot consider switching our career?
If we cannot even think of switching your career or due to some reason it’s not possible, then do this as a hobby. Everyone has problems, there is no one who doesn’t face ups and downs but because of this it is not right to forget or leave your passion. We can add our passion or interest as a hobby in our life so that we can have reason to be happy.
Whatever you do in your whole day, observe each and every task (write on a paper). And then check your list and figure out how many things are there that you absolutely do not want to do and how many are such that you really want to do. And if two or three of these works are there that you are most interested in then it is more than enough. And if you are not doing anything related to your interest, then add something related to your interest or passion in your life. Whether it is painting, crafting, reading, writing, dancing, swimming or anything else, add in your life.
Why do we need to do this?
- If you set aside one hour for your passion, then your remaining 23 hours will also change because the way you live your life will change.
- You will be happy and because of this you will be able to keep the people around you happy too.
- Because you will learn something new everyday and you will also get to see growth in your career.
- Life will not be boring and you can even enjoy your everyday life.
- You will develop confidence and also you will look younger.
Try it for one month, your life will be meaningful and you will feel more valuable. Choose growth, not loop.
