We are surrounded by many relationships in our life like business relations, parents, life partners, office friends, college friends, neighbours, relatives and so on. But there are only a few relationships that we never want to lose and that is why we are always afraid of losing them.
What’s wrong with “afraid of losing a relationship”, is this normal? Exactly, this is very normal but not healthy for a relationship. Because we are afraid of losing a relationship, we do stupid things to stay in their life. We become over possessive, dominating, even we start doubting them and sometimes spying on them. Which makes a relationship worse and then it makes no sense for them to stay in our life.
Here we will see, what we need to do to make relationship stronger-
Honesty and trust
Honesty is a responsibility in all relations, if we’ll be honest in a relation, we can earn trust. Trust follows honesty, if you want to earn trust, honesty is the only way.
Trust should be earned, so let them earn, do not give trust to anyone blindly. And once you start trusting them, show your trust, never ask stupid questions and never ask for evidence to prove anything.
Respect
Respect is not just about speaking nicely and politely but it is also about understanding. If we like someone as a person, we should respect the things they like, it doesn’t matter whether you like it or not. If they love to travel but you don’t, you have no rights to stop them from travelling, you have no option except respecting their choices, decisions, opinions, work, family or anything related to them.
But if you have some kind of suggestion or idea, share with them but don’t force them.
Remember, Honesty, trust and respect are the base of any relationship. Without these three you won’t be able to make a healthy and strong relationship on this planet.
Caring
Sometimes it is very difficult to understand the difference between caring and possessiveness. In caring we don’t want them to get hurt mentally or physically but because we become over possessive and we start dominating them. Let’s see with the previous example — if they are planning for a trip and you don’t want them to go because you are worried about them, you are thinking like, what if they get sick there, what if they face any kind of problem, what if somebody intentionally hurt them. These kinds of stupid thoughts come to our mind. But we should understand that they can take care of themselves.
If you are really caring about them do simple things for them like, if they are tired give massage to them, if they are mentally tired do healthy communication or give space to them, if they are busy do their other task like dish wash, cooking, home cleaning, etc. and this is the best way to show your care.
Support
We don’t need to help them in every area of their life. But sometimes they get stuck and don’t understand the way to get out of it. If you have expertise in that area then help and if not then just be there with them and say “doesn’t matter whatever happens, I’ll be always with you.” And sometimes this is not needed to say even.
But never taunt them that you made this mistake and you cannot handle anything, these words can take them away from you.
Let them go wherever they want to, let them do whatever they want to and when it comes to support, we should be there when they need it. We should help them when they ask for help.
Freedom
Sometimes our loved ones do things according to us because they want to make us happy but this is worse when we are habitual of it. Now we want to control them and want everything in their life according to us. Then we start dominating them. We start controlling them for dresses, friends, family, office, job, home, and everything. And even sometimes we don’t accept them as they are and want to change them. If they don’t know how to deal with this situation, they can even suffer from depression and if they don’t want to be controlled, they won’t stay with us.
Every living being on this planet deserves freedom. And freedom makes a relationship strong. So give freedom in your relationship and accept them as they are and see the magic.
Learn and grow together
When we are living with a person for a very long time, we learn many things together and of course grow together. But if we do this intentionally, we grow faster than ever before. Read books together and do discussions on the topics, join some kind of class together, share about your experiences and learnings of life, career, family, friends. And find something new in each other. That makes relationships more exciting and curious.
Have fun
Sometimes things become boring, because we repeat the same things daily and nothing new is happening. So we need to add something new in our relationship. Make small moments and enjoy them, and you can do this even at home. Play in door games like, hide and seek, chase, video games, make fun of each other. Go for outings with each other’s friends, plan for a long trip and do some adventures.
Now you will say, we already know this. Well I agree with you, but we don’t pay attention to these things even though we know. These kinds of activities make a lot of memories and give refreshment to a relationship.
No one wants to lose their relations but sometimes we lose them because we couldn’t show how important they are for us. Do not make this mistake again and make efforts to maintain your relationship.
If you have any kind of suggestions on how you maintain your relationship please share with us and also tell me if this blog was helpful for you?
Thanks for reading!
